A friend recently sent me an article and it has been on my mind the past few days. First, this is a friendly disclaimer that the article is riddled with the F-bomb. Sorry in advance, Mom. An estimated ‘eight minute read’ is more of a four minute read since you will quickly become engrossed in the wisdom that Mark is dropping.
I am a big fan of the ‘Don’t half-ass anything’ philosophy and this aligns with Mark’s F*Yes mentality. I find that my biggest complaint (of several) with dating is the over-analyzing, the mind games, and the supposed modern dating norms that we are told to follow.
“Much of it gets exceedingly analytical, to the point where some men and women actually spend more time analyzing behaviors than actually, you know, behaving,” says Mark.
It should not be that hard. Be yourself – it is attractive to not have someone trying too hard to be whoever they think they need to be in order to get a second date.
I want someone to be all in when they date me. They understand my quirks, my humor, and my baking obsession. I want them to yell a big F*Yes about spending time with me – whether it is at a baseball game, the symphony, walking the dog, or grocery shopping. You know it’s the right person if you can’t help but smile when their name appears on your phone. That is the F*Yes I am talking about.
They are the first person I text when I am happy and when I am sad. I share the random, daily thoughts, like an update on how big my hair is due to the humidity, or about the cute dog at Bluebeard during lunch, or the postman complimenting me on my shoes. The little, everyday things that make life fulfilling.
I am also a firm believer in Myers-Brigg. As a proud INTJ, I am always interested in reading what my personality type says about my work and personal relationships. The analysis always nails my strengths and weaknesses.
Here’s a little insight into me. You can find all 16 personality types here. Keep in mind that INTJs only make up .02% of the female population. I am like a magical unicorn. Apparently a romantically awkward magical unicorn.
“INTJ relationships are slow to start, usually because this personality is romantically awkward. Personal relationships tend to deviate from the logical world in which “scientists” thrive, thus leaving such an individual unequipped to maneuver the emotional and physical aspects of a relationship. Self-confidence is one of the “jewels” of this personality and the case often seems to be that the INTJ’s self-confidence shines brightest when they aren’t looking for a relationship. This air of self-assurance can be extremely attractive to a potential mate and will help to instigate a relationship.
Once in a relationship, INTJ takes the commitment very seriously and will work hard to ensure that the relationship has a good chance of working out. It is no secret that INTJ has a difficult time expressing emotions, but in actuality they can feel very strongly about a companion. The introverted intuition factor can prevent this individual from sharing personal information even with a trusted partner.”
If you have a moment, read Mark’s article and your personality type’s relationship style. If you need a refresher on which personality type you are, take the test from 16 Personalities.
The current man in my life, Winston.